Being a mentor/friend to a teen mom(s) I get sucked into the lingo from talking to them all the time. Sometimes it just slips out...hence the title of this post. HA.
Anyway, I checked in with my friend tonight about the birthmother she knows. Where she works and has contact with this birthmom is taking a 2 week break. So now, we are looking at October 6th until we may hear something again.
Although a little alarmed because Kevin's cut off date is just 2 weeks after the 6th. I am surprisingly whatev about this. It is not for me to worry about. It is for God to handle. He knows the desires of my heart. I give it all to Him.
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
Thursday, September 16, 2010
Waiting
We have been contacted about a possible adoption. Possible meaning........... I don't know. Its very complicated. We have been told to pray and wait cautiously. So, its what I am doing. Praying and waiting cautiously. I ask that you do the same for us as well. PLEASE ;)
The birth mother has a 2.5 year old daughter that her parents adopted. Her parents have 2 daughters in their 20's as well as two 7 year old twins and their adopted 2.5 year old. They are nearing 50 and really do not want another child. They have told their daughter they prefer she give this child up for adoption to another family but that it is her decision and if she chooses to "keep" her baby, they will adopt that baby as well. The birth father also wants to have this baby adopted.
The birth mother is in counselling to help her make the decision that is right for her. I am very thankful she is in counselling. This is a very hard place to be. I worry for her, that she is feeling alone..with everyone around her wanting her to give this baby up for adoption. I worry she doesn't feel supported and that her heart is breaking. I can't imagine what it is like to be in her shoes. She apparently got pregnant on purpose and no one knows why exactly. More attention? Second chance at "getting it right"? Everyone involved has their own opinions, but no one feels she is capable of parenting. That must make her feel loved too.
I feel guilty in a way, about praying that God give us this baby. I know if my prayer is answered a family suffers loss. I know if our prayer isn't answered we suffer. Adoption is hard all around.
For as hard as adoption is, it is equally or more so a miraculous blessing. It is something that is not fully understood unless you are in it.
This family is a wonderful family from what we have been told...I agree, they do sound wonderful! If this were to work out, it would be an open adoption, and I think that all of the lives involved would be enriched by getting to know each other.
So, if you think of us. Pray. Pray for the birth mother, pray for us.
P.S. We do not know when the baby is due, but we do know its a................................GIRL!
The birth mother has a 2.5 year old daughter that her parents adopted. Her parents have 2 daughters in their 20's as well as two 7 year old twins and their adopted 2.5 year old. They are nearing 50 and really do not want another child. They have told their daughter they prefer she give this child up for adoption to another family but that it is her decision and if she chooses to "keep" her baby, they will adopt that baby as well. The birth father also wants to have this baby adopted.
The birth mother is in counselling to help her make the decision that is right for her. I am very thankful she is in counselling. This is a very hard place to be. I worry for her, that she is feeling alone..with everyone around her wanting her to give this baby up for adoption. I worry she doesn't feel supported and that her heart is breaking. I can't imagine what it is like to be in her shoes. She apparently got pregnant on purpose and no one knows why exactly. More attention? Second chance at "getting it right"? Everyone involved has their own opinions, but no one feels she is capable of parenting. That must make her feel loved too.
I feel guilty in a way, about praying that God give us this baby. I know if my prayer is answered a family suffers loss. I know if our prayer isn't answered we suffer. Adoption is hard all around.
For as hard as adoption is, it is equally or more so a miraculous blessing. It is something that is not fully understood unless you are in it.
This family is a wonderful family from what we have been told...I agree, they do sound wonderful! If this were to work out, it would be an open adoption, and I think that all of the lives involved would be enriched by getting to know each other.
So, if you think of us. Pray. Pray for the birth mother, pray for us.
P.S. We do not know when the baby is due, but we do know its a................................GIRL!
Sunday, September 5, 2010
All done
It has been a very, very busy summer. All work and no play actually. Quite sad about that, but we did get one week in Canada and that was wonderful. That coupled with the fact that there just has not been anything happening with the adoption is the reason that there have not been many posts here.
A few weeks ago we got another email from our agency saying that they received our home study! ;) Even though we could have been profiled to any birthmother without that, it is a nice feeling to know that we are done. Completely a paper ready family. Nothing else to worry about or wait on. Nice.
A few weeks ago we got another email from our agency saying that they received our home study! ;) Even though we could have been profiled to any birthmother without that, it is a nice feeling to know that we are done. Completely a paper ready family. Nothing else to worry about or wait on. Nice.
Wednesday, July 21, 2010
Prayers
Below is a copy of a part of an email I received from our agency today :
We have had several birth mothers contact the agency in the last couple of weeks. Summer has been historically slow but activity usually picks up in the fall. Please be praying for the young women who are in decision making counselling that they can make an educated choice for their unborn babies.
Adoption is hard. Its my personal opinion is that it is hardest on the birth mothers. All I have to do is wait. I have done it before, and it trained me, broke me in, grew my faith. Waiting is sooo not a big deal anymore, especially if you are comfortable knowing God has it all. Why do I need to worry and wonder? That is much too stressful. Nothing that worrying or wondering is going to do except but give me a headache. These young women may not even know God. How do endure something like adoption without Him......devastating!
If you would, please pray for these girls. Not only that they would make the choices that are right for them and their babies, be that to parent or to adopt, but that they would feel sure and at peace in their decisions and that they may know the love that God has for them.
We have had several birth mothers contact the agency in the last couple of weeks. Summer has been historically slow but activity usually picks up in the fall. Please be praying for the young women who are in decision making counselling that they can make an educated choice for their unborn babies.
Adoption is hard. Its my personal opinion is that it is hardest on the birth mothers. All I have to do is wait. I have done it before, and it trained me, broke me in, grew my faith. Waiting is sooo not a big deal anymore, especially if you are comfortable knowing God has it all. Why do I need to worry and wonder? That is much too stressful. Nothing that worrying or wondering is going to do except but give me a headache. These young women may not even know God. How do endure something like adoption without Him......devastating!
If you would, please pray for these girls. Not only that they would make the choices that are right for them and their babies, be that to parent or to adopt, but that they would feel sure and at peace in their decisions and that they may know the love that God has for them.
Friday, June 18, 2010
Tidbits of excitement
Yesterday in the mail (at OUR house) Kevin's fingerprint clearances!! Wa-Hoo! At least they came to the right place ;) So, I will go get it copied, send the original to the home study social worker and send the copy to our adoption agency. Yay, another small thing accomplished.
Also, we got a letter from the agency Saturday saying that they now also provide online profiles for FREEEE on their website. They have a waiting families link that potential birth moms can click on to see pictures and information of hopeful adoptive parents. I personally think that is the way to go. I know it is more likely a teen will turn to the Internet when she is questioning her options before she will pick up the phone and call an agency. I wrote up everything our agency wanted for the online profile and emailed it along with pictures Wednesday. I am still waiting to hear if they find it all acceptable or not. I am very excited that our agency is doing this.
Also, we got a letter from the agency Saturday saying that they now also provide online profiles for FREEEE on their website. They have a waiting families link that potential birth moms can click on to see pictures and information of hopeful adoptive parents. I personally think that is the way to go. I know it is more likely a teen will turn to the Internet when she is questioning her options before she will pick up the phone and call an agency. I wrote up everything our agency wanted for the online profile and emailed it along with pictures Wednesday. I am still waiting to hear if they find it all acceptable or not. I am very excited that our agency is doing this.
Thursday, June 10, 2010
Maybe I'll just get a puppy..........
In other news, I called our social worker that is doing our home study today. I still had not received my FBI fingerprint clearances, it dawned on me that perhaps they were sent to her, rather than to me and sure enough that is exactly what happened! Everyone is happy that they are back. They should have been sent to me but I don't care about incidentals right now. Just glad we have another small thing accomplished.
Thursday, June 3, 2010
Down
I warned you it could come, and I can feel it is almost here. I am fighting against it, but getting really tired and not sure how much longer I can hang on. I'm gonna lose it. I don't know if its because my birthday is coming up soon or that now that there is no school, gymnastics, MOPS and things like that that I just have more free time to dwell on things or what it is, but I want to scream, cry, kick yell and ask WHY GOD WHY and beg him to hurry up, I can't do it anymore, I can't wait any longer. Clearly God's timing can't be right, he has no idea what he is doing. I want my child and I want him/her NOW.
Notice I said I want to, not that I am going to. I know better. I know he does know what he is doing, I know that he brought us to this agency, I know he knows the child he has for us already. I may not like it at the moment and that even though I may lose it soon, he'll be there to pick me up.
Notice I said I want to, not that I am going to. I know better. I know he does know what he is doing, I know that he brought us to this agency, I know he knows the child he has for us already. I may not like it at the moment and that even though I may lose it soon, he'll be there to pick me up.
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